21 January 2018


(Kookai Foliage dress, Siren heels, Prada sunglasses, Fossil watch.)

Oh summer, how I love you so. The nights are long and warm, the city is looking beautiful and everyone is walking around with +50 happy mood points because it really is the most wonderful time of the year. Personal highlights so far have included countless beach visits, lunchtime tanning sessions, bushwalking adventures, day drinking at the races (twice) and a cheeky festival to ring in the New Year. 

I wore the above outfit to the second races event I've attended this season at Wellington Cup Day. This dress is definitely in the running for Best Dress Ever because a) it is super flattering and makes my boobs look great, b) it is conducive with the season's current 'suns out guns out' policy that maximises tanning opportunities, and c) it has HUGE POCKETS which is pretty much the ultimate dream for any kind of occasion wear. Plus, I won $3 at the races while wearing it so I was a happy gal.

17 October 2017


(Forever New top, ASOS pants, Dotti heels, Fossil watch, Prada sunglasses.)

They said it would happen, but it didn't. She said she could make it, but something came up. He said he would call, but he never did. Plans change. Things fall through. Such is life.

Sometimes, the universe decides to have a just little too much fun when messing with your life... You know when you have these expectations about what's coming up, you make plans and get rather excited about it all. And then suddenly, for some reason or another, it doesn't work out?

The last few weeks have definitely thrown in some curveballs, to say the least. Included in these were unexpected last-minute relocations to questionable small towns (where top attractions include rock art centres), uncertain future living situations, friends having near-death experiences and the logistical nightmare of organising travel between five different domestic airports while still trying to make it to work on time. As a result, the remainder of the year is looking stupidly busy, slightly stressful and overall less than ideal.

But even though things aren't panning out quite the way I had expected them to, I've come to realise that what's done is done, and no amount of overthought, annoyance or what if's can change that. All we can do is take things as they come and just make the most of each situation. Plus, it's not all bad; sprinkled amongst the chaos are some fun times to look forward to as well. The biggie of these upcoming fun times is a spontaneous 10 day trip to CHINA that I booked when I may or may not have been drunk (oops). So when life gives you lemons, forget about lemonade. Go find yourself some salt and tequila - it will help get you through the rough times and really make the most out of the good ones.

(On a fashion-related note, how great are these pants! They certainly make me look and feel much more in control of my life than I currently am, and the colour is an absolute winner.)

15 August 2017


Something a little different on the blog today... It's a question I've been asked a few times, often with incredulity and occasionally with curiosity. Read on to found out my take and tips on the topic.

There was a reason you dated this person in the first place. You liked them on a basic human level - their personality, their values, their little quirks. They were your friend as well as your partner. And just because the romantic parts are over, doesn't mean the platonic parts have to be. 

While most people think it's pretty damn weird, I think that being friends with your ex is very much possible and totally awesome. Of course, this is all very dependent on a variety of different factors and circumstances surrounding your relationship. Every situation is unique and no two people will deal with this in the same way. I'm lucky enough to have been in a few situations that have worked out for the better. So if you're wanting to give it a crack, I've found that the following few points are pretty essential for the transition from relationship to friend zone:

1. The breakup was (relatively) amicable
All breakups suck. There is really no way around it. But in order for your friendship to survive, it would have ideally been a "that was terrible but it'll be okay" kind of situation, as opposed to a "I hate you and I never want to see you ever again" kind of situation.

2. Neither person did anything horrible to the other
This could include (but is not limited to): cheating, physical abuse, stealing the jointly owned pet, purposely destroying each other's car/phone/other expensive asset, sleeping with the other's sister/brother/other family member, etc etc. Basically, if you did anything to hurt each other (whether intentional or not), you need to be able to forgive them and vice versa.

3. There is a period of zero contact immediately after the breakup 
The zero contact time period can vary depending on the length of the relationship, the severity of heartbreak that resulted and the emotional resilience of the individuals involved. Although the ultimate goal is to be in contact on a normal basis, everyone needs some space after a breakup to just breath and figure things out. Don't try to rush this part because contact too soon will likely result in one or more of you spiralling back down the rabbit hole of feelings, and that isn't beneficial for anyone involved.

4. Both people want to be friends with each other afterwards and put in the effort to try
This one is definitely the most important. It really applies to any kind of friendship, but especially so for exes. It's essential that you still actually care about one another and both give it your best shot to make a friendship work. This may not be the case straight away as you work through your frazzled mess of emotions, but if the desire is there somewhere from both sides, you can make it happen.

5. Time, time and more time
Inevitably, there will be that awkward post-breakup period when residual feelings linger - positive or negative, or more likely a mixture of both. This period will definitely feel shittier and more awkward for the person that got dumped (because yes, you can have a 'mutual' breakup but let's be honest, it's never really mutual). But as the cliche goes, time really does heals all wounds. Each time you see them, that weirdness between you will diminish a little, the 'leftover' sexual tension will fade and any associated emotional trauma will gradually subside. It may take weeks, months, maybe even years, but if you can commit to getting through the slightly messy and sometimes confusing interim phase, the next part is pretty damn great.

I understand this isn't the path for every pair of ex-lovers. For me, there are people I've dated who are now some of the most amazing people in my life. Like I said, there was a reason I liked them in the first place, and those reasons don't just disappear. I would hate to lose someone just because we didn't happen to 'work out' - so I am very glad to know that doesn't always have to be the case.

(Wearing: MLM Mason romper, Nine West sandals.)